Aimee, a 23-year-old who has regular Skype sex with her boyfriend in Amsterdam, views it as a natural progression from texting, online chatting, and sending each other filthy phone pics. It’s no surprise that it seems to be Millennials, the generation who grew up asking each other to the formal on IM, who are most comfortable experimenting with video-chat sex. After all, just because you’re not touching her doesn’t mean you can’t get her wet – all while watching it happen. The women I know are using these services for hot purposes and I spoke with dozens of ladies who’ve embraced video-chat sex as a regular way to spice up their relationships and push themselves out of their sexual comfort zones. And all kinds of applications have sprung up over the past few years, including Skype, Apple’s FaceTime, Google’s video chat, and Tango for Android, to make it extremely easy. While phone sex keeps callers in the dark as they’re getting it on (or getting off), video chats make long-distance lust much more explicit, providing an up-close-and-personal look at all your partner’s dirty deeds – a kind of homemade porn that doesn’t have to be stashed under the bed when you’re finished. “I showed him my boobs first, and then he said, ‘Let me see more.’ When I dropped the whole towel, I got suddenly turned on and started touching myself.” And with that Melissa entered the wonderful, wired world of video-chat sex.

“I was in just a towel, my hair was still wet, and he was like, ‘What do you have on under there?’ ” she says. When Melissa, a 23-year-old publicist, stepped out of the shower one night to answer her iPhone, she had no idea what she was getting into.